Ryan has jokingly remarked in the past that he learns more about my days' events from the blog than from conversation when it has been a particularly hectic week (sidenote: how sad is that? time to slow the home). And so my idea of jotting down the events of the day was born. There's no cell service in the Boundary Waters, so it's a fun way to report to Ryan without having to jog my memory over the last week in one conversation. Many of the items will be in fragmented statements, because there's just not much to say about "made popsicles" or "mowed lawn". Also, I am not working this week or next for various reasons, and usually Tuesdays/Thursdays would be my "in office" days - all of that to say this is not a completely typical representation of our time.
Here we go!
Wednesday evening, May 12: Technically Ryan is not yet on his trip, but he was out at youth group and then asleep before I was done with a really epically awful bedtime procedure with Blythe, so I'll mark down what we did for posterity on this evening as well.
- made Popsicles with Blythe containing coconut water, almond milk, peaches, banana, and coconut flakes
- walked Oscar around the block together
- Blythe didn't fall asleep until after 11:00 (WHAAATTT ARE YOU DOOIINNNG, CHILD), so I missed saying goodbye to Ryan
- went to work in the morning, and my mom took Blythe to a nearby playground.
- we were home by lunchtime, and while I prepped lunch for the two of us, Blythe made me a selection of sandwiches from her play kitchen.
- Blythe's usual routine involves watching an episode of Caillou before napping, but she didn't nap this time after the show (and yes, I am fully aware that the experts advise against screen time prior to sleep). Her nap has seemed to be on the way out lately (see the 12th's horrible bedtime war), so I decide to drop all naps during this stretch of Ryan's absence and see how things go.
- in lieu of napping, Blythe played quietly with her "babies", and went into specific and particular detail with them about going potty: diaper vs. potty, potty chair vs. potty ring, using toilet paper....it was quite cute. She then made "bunk beds" for them while I did some cleaning out as part of my 101 challenge.
- dinner consisted of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches on the patio steps while we watched the rain fall.
- bath time
- rode bikes and scooter in pajamas and piggy slippers (Blythe, not me)
Friday, May 14:
- Blythe and I took a trip to Le Quartier for croissants, as we were having a playdate with my friends with French connections (along with my friend Erin and her non-French connections): E is a French professor with two little girls, and D is French and has three boys. Both of them are leaving for a few weeks in France this summer. I listened to them speak French to each other and will try to live vicariously through their stories when they return.
- Blythe ate her lunch while watching Caillou (MOM OF THE YEAR 2013!), and then had some quiet play time.
- ran to Goodwill to drop a few things off, made a stop at the post office, and bought a few groceries
- had some fun in the evening doing tie-dye with my sister-in-law and our nephews and niece, as well as some fun in the sprinklers in their backyard
- feeling especially appreciative of some of the things Ryan does regularly around the house, including mowing, taking care of toys/sandbox cleanup in the backyard, and trash duty
- breakfast and books with Blythe
- Blythe made drawings and paintings for Grandpa and Papa, and Stacey and "AJ/Law"
- at Blythe's request, I painted her toenails (for the first time in her life, holla!)
- I spent some time cleaning out our office, which serves as the dumping ground for donations
- took Blythe and Oscar to my parents' house so that I could see Man of Steel with my dad, sister, and her boyfriend as an early Father's Day activity. Thanks for watching the "kids", Mom! On the way to my parents' house, Oscar was getting worked up and excited, and Blythe kept repeating to him "I know, I know, I know" which then became "Jesus loves me, this I know."
- Blythe went to a new (to her) playground with Gran, and they also grabbed some ice cream from eCreamery.
- Mowed the lawn in the evening (ugh), had dinner, watched a little Caillou before bed.
- Rough night overnight - it was very hot upstairs and I woke up at least a handful of times
- spent a significant amount of my post-Blythe-bedtime evening contemplating a return to short(er) hair - what do you think?
Sunday, May 16:
- church in the morning (we were late because I wanted/needed some coffee on the way)
- home for lunch and some playtime
- Blythe made a "leaf pile" (inspired by Caillou) with clothes, baby blankets, and any other assorted pillows and bedroom items she could find
- stopped over to my parents' house to meet friends there, who were looking at some furniture and other items my parents no longer need
- Bath night
- This day was probably the roughest one as far as Blythe's temperament. She had a core meltdown on the drive home from church, screaming the entire way because she wasn't able to remove her shoes....and then later in the evening, she wanted chocolate chips and put up a great fight when I nixed that idea.
- Overnight Sunday was also a rough night as it was hot upstairs and Oscar was acting strangely - I let him out of his crate and hoped for the best
Monday: May 17:
- went to my friend Erin's house and met our other friend Rachel there - enjoyed some great banana bread (gluten-free holla!)
- straight from Erin's house to the pool with my sister and her boyfriend. Blythe had such a fun time at the pool, and I appreciated two other people present for toddler-wrangling
- came home and had some quiet time - let Blythe watch a little movie on my Kindle
- quesadillas for dinner, bath night following the pool
- Blythe played some sort of game with her little stuffed cat and I often heard her saying "there you are silly cat" in an amused and exasperated voice
- 9:15 Kindermusik class with Blythe, then back home
- Blythe played nicely while I cleaned bathrooms and vacuumed - it was a rainy morning
- addressed a few emails after general email slacking lately
- play-doh mania for Blythe, then lunch
- waaayyyy too much screen time by Blythe for my liking today, but I had a headache and had hit a solo parenting wall. I feel bad about that, and we didn't offset it by reading very many books or something otherwise playful/stimulating.
- I wanted to eat. A lot. And did.
- a bit of sandbox and book time in the evening.
- Oscar woke up at midnight overnight howling bloody murder, so I broke him out of the clink and let him sleep anywhere
- babysat our friend's daughter Miriam beginning at 8:30 - the girls are close in age which is both helpful and challenging :) They played on the playset, we went on a walk around the block, and Blythe generally acted as an insistent hostess. "Want to drink your milk, Miriam?" "Want my arm around you?" "Slow down!" It was so fun to listen in to their conversations now that they can carry on their own little banter.
- my mom stopped over to drop a few things off toward the end of Miriam's visit, and stayed long enough for me to prep some lunch for Blythe by myself. Bless her.
- Caillou time, then some quiet play time
- fun with a new sprinkler toy in the backyard (I can't summon the energy to perfect my terminology right now), time playing in the sandbox, a hodge podge dinner
- bath time, early bedtime
But really, I am genuinely appreciative of these solo days with Blythe. And it does get easier as she gets older. When Ryan is gone for stretches of time, I find myself rising to the occasion more - maybe something to do with the fact that I know I won't get relief or
"alone time" at a certain point in the day, and so I just power through and make the best of it? And we had plenty of events scattered throughout the week to get us out of the house and mix up our days.
As they say at Momastery, I definitely did some carpe diem-ing, mixed in with all of that usual daily stuff. There were hard moments, and things I said and did that I'm not particularly proud of, but I did my best by myself most of the time (but never really alone!) for this period of time.
And I just treated myself by buying an obscene amount of new music from iTunes. Carpe diem-ing my last evening!